All posts by Margie Latch

Change Your Perspective, Change Your Pain.

Hi there…

I say this all the time…. Change your perspective, change your pain.

In the past few weeks I’ve had some challenges. The heater started acting up, my gas range developed a leak so bad that it needed to be cut off and replaced immediately, annnnnnd… (as of today) my car won’t pass emissions without getting hundreds of dollars worth of repair work done, thereby delaying the renewal of the registration tags.   By the time the car news rolled in…I was NOT a happy camper.

I lost track of a few things along the way.
First…yes, my gas heater started acting up…and yes I needed to have it repaired.  But… the gas heater is what brought the gas company out to my house, and it was that same gas company visit which brought the issue with my gas range to light.  The gas range was emitting lethal levels of CO…even when it was turned off.  I never would have known had the heater not needed attention.  So…yes…you could say that the malfunctioning heater may well have saved my life.  Do I focus on the unexpected expense or the fact that I’m still here to talk about it? Changing your perspective changes your pain.

Gas Ranges are expensive…
Dang expensive, if you ask me.  I was bent on finding a good deal (thank you, Anthony Mahathy for the sound appliance shopping advice) on a range with a self-cleaning function.  Just last night I found her…my new gas range.  She self-cleans,  has five burners, convection functionality, delayed start and a host of other delightful attributes that I never would have thought to look for.  She is an $854 value that I paid only $399 for. Do I focus on  the fact that my old range tried to kill me, or the brand new range that is the best I’ve ever owned, and only cost $16 more than the no-frills, manual clean, base level gas ranges I’d seen in several places?  Again…changing your perspective changes your pain.

My car.  Well… in the end my car will be fixed and the tags will be current. There’s not a lot there to overly excited about…the repair won’t save my life, nor will it make my car worth twice it’s value.  The problem is inconvenient to say the least, especially given the timing. However, as the nice mechanic drove me home to await the estimate, he commented on my nice car.  I replied with a “yea…except for what all has gone wrong with it.”  He was silent.  His silence gave me pause to think that maybe he’d be grateful for my problems. It also reminded me of a few times…like the year I spent without a car….when I would have given anything to have the challenges I’m facing today.   Again…changing my perspective , changed my pain.

I’m not suggesting that this approach is a “heal all” but it will lighten the load, if you let it. Will you let it work for you? Where will you let this work for you?

As always, God bless and thanks for reading,



Little Schmittle!

Starting out little doesn’t mean you’ll stay little. This is  what can happen with good soil, a little water, some sunshine and plenty of room to grow!

This lovely plant started out as a piddly, 2-inch tall, single stem and and single flower plant-ling.

This plant-ling (plant-ling is a word that I just now made up) was the runt of the litter, so to speak. I felt so sorry for it.  It didn’t look like it had a chance at all. On a whim, I placed it in this pot, which is 12 inches deep and 12 inches wide, with about 4 inches of soil, just to see what would happen. It looked pretty lost and lonely in there for a long while, but once it got started things moved very quickly…and look at what it became!

There is much to be drawn from how long my little plant-ling spent just absorbing the nutrients from the moist soil, the refreshing water, and the warmth of the sun before any outward sign of growth began to show itself.  In fact, I’d say it was a month or more just resting, and strengthening before it shot up. ..but once it started, it was at full strength in less than a week.  Remember…this was the runt…the one that had  little or no future, and it grew to be the largest and healthiest of the lot!

There is a parallel here.  When we really give ourselves over to Christ, allowing ourselves to be planted in good soil, i.e. a good church, letting Him water us with his Word, and warm us with the sunshine of his love, then allowing ourselves all the room we need to grow, the growth we experience is amazing, and the beauty revealed within us –breathtaking.  This is especially true if you are, or feel like, one of life’s runts.  The smaller and weaker you are in life, the more glorious the change.

Do you want your life to blossom like my plant has? Has your life already blossomed like my plant has?  I would love to hear your story!

As always, thanks for reading and God bless!


Free Stuff!!


But….before we get to the free stuff…(it will make sense in the end, I promise.)

Let’s get real.
Some will say that it’s your sense of worthiness that creates the courage to be authentic, and others will say that it’s authenticity that helps you operate in a sense of worthiness … either way, I doubt you can have one without the other in close tow.

Operating in what is personally authentic to you, generally, has you operating in your areas of strength and garnering successes accordingly…thus increasing your sense of value…i.e. your sense of worthiness.   Knowing who you are…your strengths, your weaknesses, your core values in life and then giving yourself permission to operate accordingly, will free you to live the life you were meant to live. Living the life you were meant to live will dramatically increase your self-worth.   It will bring you to a place where all the points connect and all the gears engage.

One of the best ways to start is a personality test.  You will be amazed at what you can learn about YOU by taking a good personality test. Here’s where we get to the free stuff. Behind this link is a free  personality test. Please take the test, get your answers and start running with them!!  Don’t let anything or anyone deter you from moving toward the life you were built for.

Operating in what is authentic to you… your God given abilities, the call He’s placed on your life, and a deep conviction of what you want left behind from the life you’ve lived, can open doors in your spirit and your psyche that you didn’t even know were there, and it will open doors for you in life that you never anticipated.

I’d love to hear back from anyone who takes the test and is surprised by what you learn.

God bless, and as always, thanks for reading!


Pedestals and Pavement

It happens over and over. We see the best of someone, and we assume it lines up with the rest of that someone.  We trusted that the 10% we saw was their entire identity.  We forgot to add standard human frailties to the equation. Once we find out we’re wrong, we feel angry, betrayed and humiliated.  Sometimes we lash out in our disappointment.

If you’re there right now, let me offer you some advice…and while I’m offering it to you, I’ll offer to myself, as well.  Two of life’s many truths are this…every one of us experiences disappointment in this life and everyone one of us causes disappointment in this life.  We all fall off the pedestal and hit the pavement at some point, in someone’s eyes.  Every one of us.

The next time someone falls from their pedestal, why don’t we respond to them, the same way we hope they’ll respond to us, when we hit the pavement.  Let’s offer some gentleness, some compassion and maybe even a touch of forgiveness.

God bless, and as always, thanks for reading!


Don’t Be Tolerated!

Hi everyone… short and sweet this time!

It’s no fun conversing with someone who consistently shows irritation at your most innocuous comments or gestures.  You’re just being you…not being negative or ugly…just you, and they are barely able tolerate it, or you.  It’s their choice to show their arrogance, and truly not your issue.

You may have done something wrong somewhere along the way to bring their ire, or you may not. It’s their ire…not yours.  Don’t internalize it.  Don’t wonder what might be wrong with YOU.  They are doing it.  Let them own it.  You can gently confront the issue if you’d like. Something I favor, and may bring good results.  In my view, a gentle confrontation shows respect for the relationship, and gives them a chance to rethink things.

Making changes.
If you choose to confront and nothing changes…move on. If you can’t move on, at least make adjustments. Their actions are damaging to you. Until that person is generally accepting of you, they need less access/exposure to you…and you need less access/exposure to them.

It doesn’t have to be ugly.
You can provide someone less access without passing judgement, believe it or not.  You don’t need to pass judgement. That’s not your job.  Love them, leave them to God, but distance yourself. I’ve done it in the past. It served my life, and my walk with the Lord, very well.

As always, God bless and thanks for reading!


I Was So Wrong!

One of the best days of my life was the day I realized how wrong I was in my theology. It’s not about works of any sort. Works done unto Him certainly have their place, and should be respected, but the promises are pinned to His work on Calvary. We don’t have healing because of the money we put in the offering, or the work we do at church.  We have healing  because Jesus paid in full for it on the Cross. We can’t repay Him by earning His sacrifice…or buying it. We repay Him by believing in what He did…by accepting His work as final.

All that to say, God does NOT hold anything back from you. While a life dedicated to God will be rewarded, not one promise is awaiting your next offering or your next good deed. NOT ONE.

It’s about reach.
Those promises…natural and spiritual…are in set places. Our reach grows toward them by getting the Word in our spirits,  as many have taught.  They come by replacing what you see in the world with what you see in the Word. Rehearsing daily…several times daily…reciting out loud what God says. Doing an internal audit and deciding whether or not you believe, as you read the Word, that God is actually speaking directly to, and about,  YOU.

Once you truly …through and through…have a grasp on that, next is allowing the Holy Spirit to advise you on where you need work…what needs changed within you in order to handle/manage your gift…your promise, successfully.  This usually takes time, but again, it’s not God who makes that determination.  That determination of time is made by you for your life, and me for mine.

Take heart.
Proverbs 13:12 say: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” If you are like I used to be – a walking, taking version of that verse, then let this bring back your hope.  There is no endless list of chores to accomplish, or mysterious dollar figure you need to hit to get your breakthrough.  With all of your being…just believe, and then actively choose to receive!

As always, thanks for reading!


The OwnZone

10:15PM…all time record for lateness here…but part of my delay was getting to watch a good, true, and precious friend walk in the glory of God tonight, which makes the late hour very well worth it!

Here we go…
Never count anyone out.  You never…ever…know what is really going on inside of them. You never know how close they are to finding that new level of living, giving or even inspiring.

Now, that said…
If you feel as though people have counted you out…cast you off…or even given up on you,  I want you to run a little, personal, internal audit.  I had to do this recently, as well.  Go back over your interactions with the people you feel hurt by.  What have they seen with regard to your choices?  Do they see a string of bad decisions attached to your challenges? Do they see someone who, for reasons known or unknown, won’t take valid advice?  Do they see the one thing you don’t…someone who is worth so much than their current existence reflects?

Have you taken the time and energy to show them how hard you are trying and where you are trying, or have you blown them off? In a nutshell, have you stepped into The OwnZone…and accepted responsibility for communicating the whole truth of where you are and why?  Not to everyone…but to people who could help you, people who truly love you.

On lookers aren’t able to see what you see of your situation. Having been on both sides now, I can tell you first hand – it can be just as frustrating to watch someone you care for suffer in a mess, as it is hurtful to be misunderstood within that mess.

Once again, none of us should judge, but as someone in need of help, you nust take ownership of the communication for your life. They see the external evidence of your suffering, but have no way of understanding what you really need or why it’s so hard unless you shared it with them.

If you have, GREAT!  If not, give them a chance to really understand. Give them the chance that you want them to give you.

God bless, and…as always, thanks for reading!


Forgiveness…What Is Your Strategy?

Why do we forgive?  Because God commands us to, and because not forgiving turns inward on us. It makes us bitter and sick inside.  How do we forgive?  For me it begins with love. And to love them, I need to understand, to some extent, their pain.  I need to remember that people who hurt others do so because they, themselves, have been hurt. I need to realize that their misdeeds, though hurtful and damaging at the times,  should have no lasting value because they came from such a valueless place.

I’ll give you one example from my own past.  Two neighborhood boys…bullies.  They bullied me verbally every night and eventually began to get on either side of me, shoulder to shoulder, crowd me, pinch my behind and threaten to rape me.  They did this repeatedly for the better part of a summer.  I walked away from that group of kids completely, for my own safety, and later found that, indeed, they’d made plans to keep their promise.  At the age of 11, I was saved by the grace of God, and the ears of someone who overheard them designing a strategy to pull me into the bushes and do what they wanted to do. The whole thing still sends chills up my spine.

One of these boys was just a puppet.  He would do anything the other one told him to do.  The other was a very different story.  This boy was clearly evil, and very angry.   No one internalizes and manifests that sort of evil and anger at that age (possibly 14) on their own.  He was deeply wounded by someone, in some way and just acting out on the weakest vessel he could find, which was me.

The puppet?  Well, what else can you say about that?  He was a follower.  He didn’t have it in him to say no.   He just didn’t have it in him.

So -though it took a very long time, I forgave them based on their limitations.  I could do that.  I chose to do that…not for them, but for me, so that I could be free.

Now I have to do the same for everyone else on the list :).  Again, not for them, but for me…so that I can be free!

Who will you forgive as we move into the new year? What is your strategy?

As always, thanks for reading!


The Amazing Truth of Christmas

May you be richly blessed this Christmas with peace, joy and most importantly an even deeper understanding of the precious babe born in a stable along with the mighty work He came to do, just for you, which is the amazing truth of Christmas.  Please enjoy the story of his birth written below, as told through the passages in the books of Matthew and Luke.  

The Birth of Jesus Foretold
God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary.  The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.”

Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be.  But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus.  He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.”

 “How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?”

The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God.  For no word from God will ever fail.”

 “I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.” Then the angel left her.

The Birth of Jesus
In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world.  (This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria.) And everyone went to their own town to register.

So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David.  He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child.  While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.

And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night.  An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified.  But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.  Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord.  This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”

 Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, “Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”

 So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger.  When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them.  But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.  The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, which were just as they had been told.

On the eighth day, when it was time to circumcise the child, he was named Jesus, the name the angel had given him before he was conceived.


Have a very merry and  blessed Christmas,  everyone!

As always, thanks  for reading!


Tonight Is No Different…Or is it?

Most bloggers are ready weeks in advance with their material.  I would NOT be one of those bloggers.  Typically, I sit down to write about two or three hours before my deadline, pray for help, sweat a little, grit my teeth some…and start typing in hopes that I’ll have something truly meaningful to share for at least one reader.  Tonight is no different.

I don’t mean it to be this way, in fact, there is a standing promise in the back of my mind that swears I’ll never be this late again…but the promise rarely gets kept.

As I sit here…having prayed…and still doing a tad bit of the aforementioned sweating and teeth gritting…my thoughts are circling around two of my older posts… Pain Like Sheets of Rain, and Why Go Forward. Both were birthed from my own arduous walk from the depths of despair and my choice to move onward toward better days.

If you haven’t read them, I hope you do. I hope they inspire you forward…toward the Savior who gave up everything for you and would do it again…just for you. I hope it moves you to reach…just one more time…for healing, for peace, for the ability to trust and walk in all the incredible good that Jesus died for you to have.

I hope they bring you a sense of peace and strength this Christmas that, perhaps, you didn’t expect to find.

As always, God bless and thanks for reading!