Pedestals and Pavement

It happens over and over. We see the best of someone, and we assume it lines up with the rest of that someone.  We trusted that the 10% we saw was their entire identity.  We forgot to add standard human frailties to the equation. Once we find out we’re wrong, we feel angry, betrayed and humiliated.  Sometimes we lash out in our disappointment.

If you’re there right now, let me offer you some advice…and while I’m offering it to you, I’ll offer to myself, as well.  Two of life’s many truths are this…every one of us experiences disappointment in this life and everyone one of us causes disappointment in this life.  We all fall off the pedestal and hit the pavement at some point, in someone’s eyes.  Every one of us.

The next time someone falls from their pedestal, why don’t we respond to them, the same way we hope they’ll respond to us, when we hit the pavement.  Let’s offer some gentleness, some compassion and maybe even a touch of forgiveness.

God bless, and as always, thanks for reading!
Margie

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Don’t Be Tolerated!

Hi everyone… short and sweet this time!

It’s no fun conversing with someone who consistently shows irritation at your most innocuous comments or gestures.  You’re just being you…not being negative or ugly…just you, and they are barely able tolerate it, or you.  It’s their choice to show their arrogance, and truly not your issue.

You may have done something wrong somewhere along the way to bring their ire, or you may not. It’s their ire…not yours.  Don’t internalize it.  Don’t wonder what might be wrong with YOU.  They are doing it.  Let them own it.  You can gently confront the issue if you’d like. Something I favor, and may bring good results.  In my view, a gentle confrontation shows respect for the relationship, and gives them a chance to rethink things.

Making changes.
If you choose to confront and nothing changes…move on. If you can’t move on, at least make adjustments. Their actions are damaging to you. Until that person is generally accepting of you, they need less access/exposure to you…and you need less access/exposure to them.

It doesn’t have to be ugly.
You can provide someone less access without passing judgement, believe it or not.  You don’t need to pass judgement. That’s not your job.  Love them, leave them to God, but distance yourself. I’ve done it in the past. It served my life, and my walk with the Lord, very well.

As always, God bless and thanks for reading!
Margie

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I Was So Wrong!

One of the best days of my life was the day I realized how wrong I was in my theology. It’s not about works of any sort. Works done unto Him certainly have their place, and should be respected, but the promises are pinned to His work on Calvary. We don’t have healing because of the money we put in the offering, or the work we do at church.  We have healing  because Jesus paid in full for it on the Cross. We can’t repay Him by earning His sacrifice…or buying it. We repay Him by believing in what He did…by accepting His work as final.

All that to say, God does NOT hold anything back from you. While a life dedicated to God will be rewarded, not one promise is awaiting your next offering or your next good deed. NOT ONE.

It’s about reach.
Those promises…natural and spiritual…are in set places. Our reach grows toward them by getting the Word in our spirits,  as many have taught.  They come by replacing what you see in the world with what you see in the Word. Rehearsing daily…several times daily…reciting out loud what God says. Doing an internal audit and deciding whether or not you believe, as you read the Word, that God is actually speaking directly to, and about,  YOU.

Once you truly …through and through…have a grasp on that, next is allowing the Holy Spirit to advise you on where you need work…what needs changed within you in order to handle/manage your gift…your promise, successfully.  This usually takes time, but again, it’s not God who makes that determination.  That determination of time is made by you for your life, and me for mine.

Take heart.
Proverbs 13:12 say: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” If you are like I used to be – a walking, taking version of that verse, then let this bring back your hope.  There is no endless list of chores to accomplish, or mysterious dollar figure you need to hit to get your breakthrough.  With all of your being…just believe, and then actively choose to receive!

As always, thanks for reading!
Margie

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The OwnZone

10:15PM…all time record for lateness here…but part of my delay was getting to watch a good, true, and precious friend walk in the glory of God tonight, which makes the late hour very well worth it!

Here we go…
Never count anyone out.  You never…ever…know what is really going on inside of them. You never know how close they are to finding that new level of living, giving or even inspiring.

Now, that said…
If you feel as though people have counted you out…cast you off…or even given up on you,  I want you to run a little, personal, internal audit.  I had to do this recently, as well.  Go back over your interactions with the people you feel hurt by.  What have they seen with regard to your choices?  Do they see a string of bad decisions attached to your challenges? Do they see someone who, for reasons known or unknown, won’t take valid advice?  Do they see the one thing you don’t…someone who is worth so much than their current existence reflects?

Have you taken the time and energy to show them how hard you are trying and where you are trying, or have you blown them off? In a nutshell, have you stepped into The OwnZone…and accepted responsibility for communicating the whole truth of where you are and why?  Not to everyone…but to people who could help you, people who truly love you.

On lookers aren’t able to see what you see of your situation. Having been on both sides now, I can tell you first hand – it can be just as frustrating to watch someone you care for suffer in a mess, as it is hurtful to be misunderstood within that mess.

Once again, none of us should judge, but as someone in need of help, you nust take ownership of the communication for your life. They see the external evidence of your suffering, but have no way of understanding what you really need or why it’s so hard unless you shared it with them.

If you have, GREAT!  If not, give them a chance to really understand. Give them the chance that you want them to give you.

God bless, and…as always, thanks for reading!
Margie

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Forgiveness…What Is Your Strategy?

Why do we forgive?  Because God commands us to, and because not forgiving turns inward on us. It makes us bitter and sick inside.  How do we forgive?  For me it begins with love. And to love them, I need to understand, to some extent, their pain.  I need to remember that people who hurt others do so because they, themselves, have been hurt. I need to realize that their misdeeds, though hurtful and damaging at the times,  should have no lasting value because they came from such a valueless place.

I’ll give you one example from my own past.  Two neighborhood boys…bullies.  They bullied me verbally every night and eventually began to get on either side of me, shoulder to shoulder, crowd me, pinch my behind and threaten to rape me.  They did this repeatedly for the better part of a summer.  I walked away from that group of kids completely, for my own safety, and later found that, indeed, they’d made plans to keep their promise.  At the age of 11, I was saved by the grace of God, and the ears of someone who overheard them designing a strategy to pull me into the bushes and do what they wanted to do. The whole thing still sends chills up my spine.

One of these boys was just a puppet.  He would do anything the other one told him to do.  The other was a very different story.  This boy was clearly evil, and very angry.   No one internalizes and manifests that sort of evil and anger at that age (possibly 14) on their own.  He was deeply wounded by someone, in some way and just acting out on the weakest vessel he could find, which was me.

The puppet?  Well, what else can you say about that?  He was a follower.  He didn’t have it in him to say no.   He just didn’t have it in him.

So -though it took a very long time, I forgave them based on their limitations.  I could do that.  I chose to do that…not for them, but for me, so that I could be free.

Now I have to do the same for everyone else on the list :).  Again, not for them, but for me…so that I can be free!

Who will you forgive as we move into the new year? What is your strategy?

As always, thanks for reading!
Margie

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The Amazing Truth of Christmas

May you be richly blessed this Christmas with peace, joy and most importantly an even deeper understanding of the precious babe born in a stable along with the mighty work He came to do, just for you, which is the amazing truth of Christmas.  Please enjoy the story of his birth written below, as told through the passages in the books of Matthew and Luke.  

The Birth of Jesus Foretold
God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary.  The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.”

Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be.  But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus.  He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.”

 “How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?”

The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God.  For no word from God will ever fail.”

 “I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.” Then the angel left her.

The Birth of Jesus
In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world.  (This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria.) And everyone went to their own town to register.

So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David.  He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child.  While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.

And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night.  An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified.  But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.  Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord.  This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”

 Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, “Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”

 So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger.  When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them.  But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.  The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, which were just as they had been told.

On the eighth day, when it was time to circumcise the child, he was named Jesus, the name the angel had given him before he was conceived.

 

Have a very merry and  blessed Christmas,  everyone!

As always, thanks  for reading!
Margie

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Tonight Is No Different…Or is it?

Most bloggers are ready weeks in advance with their material.  I would NOT be one of those bloggers.  Typically, I sit down to write about two or three hours before my deadline, pray for help, sweat a little, grit my teeth some…and start typing in hopes that I’ll have something truly meaningful to share for at least one reader.  Tonight is no different.

I don’t mean it to be this way, in fact, there is a standing promise in the back of my mind that swears I’ll never be this late again…but the promise rarely gets kept.

As I sit here…having prayed…and still doing a tad bit of the aforementioned sweating and teeth gritting…my thoughts are circling around two of my older posts… Pain Like Sheets of Rain, and Why Go Forward. Both were birthed from my own arduous walk from the depths of despair and my choice to move onward toward better days.

If you haven’t read them, I hope you do. I hope they inspire you forward…toward the Savior who gave up everything for you and would do it again…just for you. I hope it moves you to reach…just one more time…for healing, for peace, for the ability to trust and walk in all the incredible good that Jesus died for you to have.

I hope they bring you a sense of peace and strength this Christmas that, perhaps, you didn’t expect to find.

As always, God bless and thanks for reading!

Margie

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Pain Like Sheets of Rain

This is a re-post from a long, long time ago.  I pray it blesses you. 

All I can tell you is this…if you are hurting, if you are lonely, if you feel forsaken and no one will listen…Jesus will.  Jesus will let you lay your head on his lap and cry all the tears you need to cry, as many times as you need to cry them.  I’ve known this for a long time but recently received a crash renewal on it. I’m walking through a season where pain comes in like sheets of rain. It’s been crippling, but there’s no person in my life who has the time or inclination to listen, or even notice right now.  I’m not speaking disparagingly of anyone. In fact, I’m sure I’m guilty of the same for someone else.  Life is just like that sometimes…for everyone.

We are designed for horizontal relationships, as well as a vertical one.  God never intended for people to be alone or to go through life only relating to and with Him. Even so, there are times when God really is all you will have, and I can say from personal experience, that the best gift you can give yourself is an authentic and deep relationship with Him.

Open the door to the most tender and steadfast love you could ever experience.  Allow yourself the space and the grace to ask for and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  You will never, ever regret it.

You don’t need to be a good person or to have lived a good life in order to qualify…you just need an open heart toward Him…for who He is and what He has to offer. 

As it is with anything, the more you put into this relationship, the more you will get out of it.  It’s a rare person who has all their hurts healed the day they ask Jesus into their life.  I certainly didn’t, but giving myself, or in this case, yourself over to Christ allows Him to lead you to that healing.  The healing process takes time, and will require some effort on your part, but if you give him the time and space He needs, He’ll get you there.

He loves you so very much; trust, accept and let Him show you.

Note: I found this pic on mylot.com.  It was posted by pr1yanka, and titled “Alone in the rain”. No other information was available

 

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You’re OK, Regardless of What They Say!

Life is trial and error for everyone. It’s OK – God knew that from the get-go. Seriously…He really did! He never expected you to do everything just right…even when you knew better.

It’s never gonna be perfect. You’re never gonna to be perfect.  You’re gonna mess up…sometimes a lot…that’s OK.

Some people are gonna walk away…that’s OK.  You’re OK.  Even if you need work (and who doesn’t), you’re still OK.

That courtroom in your mind…the one that finds you guilty at ever turn. Shut it down, lock the doors and throw away the key. You’re OK.

From the finger pointers…this time YOU walk way. It’s OK. You’re still OK.

You are an amazing creature…not a perfect one.  You were fearfully and wonderfully made…God said so.  God never speaks of having created perfection in humanity….He created imperfect humans to need and receive HIS absolutely perfect love.

Take yourself to the mirror and repeat after me… I AM NOT PERFECT, BUT THAT’S OK AND I’M OK!

And…for extra credit… read these  to yourself in front of that same mirror.

 

Ecclesiastes 7:20  There is not a righteous person on earth who always does good and never sins.

Romans 8:37-39 – No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

YOU ARE OK, regardless of what they say!

God bless…and, as always, thanks for reading!
Margie

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Go To …Your O2!

If you want out of that hole, then you need to surround yourself with people that believe you can come out of that hole, want you to come out of that hole, and have come out of a hole themselves. You also need to believe, i.e…make a conscious choice to trust …that God’s number one desire for you is to come out of that hole. If you don’t have that kind of trust and support, then seek it out, pray it out…do what you have to do but don’t stop until you find it.  It will be your Oxygen for the climb.

 If it weren’t for how God was able to operate in my life, through my support system, most of which came from my church, there’d be no LifeLifted.Org right now, because the Margie that is before you now, would not exist.

Here’s an example of the value of support. It was my mentor at church, Ernie, who first started encouraging me to write, and now I get to write for all of you! Her consistent encouragement, over time, made me think I could write professionally.  Her support, in this area and others, provided much oxygen for the climb. The sermons I listen to…every single Sunday, after Wednesday, after Sunday, after Wednesday…(all  geared, in some way, shape or form, toward encouragement for the climbers), all provided oxygen, off of which I gained strength to take those next steps up and out.  In my life, if there had been no support, there’would have been no success.  No one can do it alone, and if anyone tells you otherwise, they are lying, or at the very least, are laboring under a gross misunderstanding.

Please trust me on this…do whatever you need to do to develop your trust in the love  God has for YOU, and then develop a hearty  support system.  The two together will likely be the single most important element for finding your success.

For me, part of finding the support I needed involved moving 800 miles away from everything I’d ever known, to a place I’d never been.  I’m not suggesting that you have to do what I did, but don’t hesitate to do whatever it is you need to do, whether it is to change your friends, your job, your church or, even your address.  Do what you have to do in order to go to your O2 !

God bless, and as always, thanks for reading!
Margie

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